I’ve been meaning to write a post about Bella since she arrived last November but the weeks pass by!
We had about 18 months without a dog and decided it was time to get another one. My OH wanted another golden retriever, Rosie was gorgeous and was very much his dog, she would gaze adoring at him, I think he presumed all goldens would do the same! He happened to meet a breeder on a training course who mentioned that when dogs had had two or three litters they would find them a good home. They had one just about to have her last litter, she was four years old, this was in September. She sounded perfect for us, past the adolescent stage but plenty of life left ahead.
We arranged to go to see her in mid November, thinking that having agreed to take her, we could collect her straight after our big holiday in mid January. She was gorgeous and spent most of the time glued to my side having her ears rubbed. We said we would love to have her, take her now, they said. I explained that we couldn’t as we were going away for four weeks, try her out for 4 weeks, we’ll have her back over Christmas, then you can collect her afterwards…but we haven’t got anything, no bed, no food…she’ll be fine on a blanket, here’s a bag of food! Her name? we call them all Sandy! She’d probably earned them thousands of pounds and she didn’t even have her own name! So we came home with a dog!!

We realised very quickly that Bella (she deserved her own name!) had quite a few issues. She had clearly been kept in the barn most of the time, only allowed in the conservatory occasionally. It took us a week to get her to leave our conservatory. She had never been lead walked, traffic terrified her, infact most things scared her, she cowered alot, particularly round my OH. She had no idea of food treats, she wouldn’t eat in front of us, in fact in the first month she only ate at night time, she lost about 4kg in weight.
She was a nightmare to walk, I didn’t dare walk her with my balance issues, she pulled my OH over twice and slipped her collar and bolted a couple of times in the first week. We realised we needed help and got a dog trainer round. When he looked at her he said if a normal chilled out dog is 0 and a hyper dog is 10, Bella is about -8, she was just so shut down. He advised keeping her in the house for three weeks and literally take her round the house on a training lead. So that’s what we did, if I went to make a cup of tea, I took her on the lead into the kitchen, if I went to watch TV, I took her with me. She eventually got used to the idea that she could go round the house. She still doesn’t like going in the kitchen, but she has a bed in all the rooms we spend time in and she seems more comfortable following us round.
And then we went on holiday!! We had realised within 48 hours of getting her that there was no way we could take her back there for four weeks, she would have regressed so much. Luckily my daughter came to the rescue and looked after her. It wasn’t an ideal situation as Helen was here there and everywhere, but she did a brilliant job with her. She spent Christmas at her boyfriends mum’s house, which was quite good in some ways as his mum has two dogs, so Bella could see what a dog is meant to be like in a home! Helen took all three dogs up to the Lakes for New Year, then took Bella down to her home in Colchester. Eventually we came home and could settle Bella into a routine.
It’s now six months since we came back from holiday, so how is she doing…

She is great at being lead walked, it was about two months before I dared walk her on my own, now she’s mainly off the lead as her recall is so good. There’s still situations I avoid, she’s still a bit nervous with traffic so, for example, I don’t use the island in the middle of the road to cross, I wait until I can cross in one go. She’s still not keen on gates or doorways, but I can usually persuade her now. She travels on the bus with me fairly happily.
It’s lovely to see her run, what we call a freedom run, she loves deep puddles and prances through them. There were a several on our regular walks earlier in the year, she was so disappointed when they eventually dried up! She is still a different dog outside, a lot more relaxed and happy.

In the house she is still a little reserved, she will come into the lounge or my sewing room, but is obviously still a little unsure, as if she’s expecting to be told off. We’ve moved her food dish to next to her bed so it is away from the busy end of the hall, she will now eat when we are around, so long as we don’t get too near. She still rarely takes a treat from the hand, but if I put it on the floor next to me, she’ll take it. She’s a golden retriever and she’s not food orientated! It did make training a little tricky as so many trainers use food, she’s happy with a tickle behind her ear!

She’s very much my dog, dogs usually choose one person and she’s chosen me! She is much better than she was with my OH but she still occasionally cowers or skulks away. My OH was pretty disappointed at first, I think he wanted another Rosie, but of course dogs are all different, he has worked hard to gain her confidence but it’s obviously going to take a while. It does make us wonder what went on in her previous home.
She loves having visits from her big sister Helen! I think they will always have a special bond.
I saw a video on social media a while ago about someone who rescued a breeding dog, she was totally shut down too and it took about two years to really come out of her shell. One comment really rang home with me ‘she’s almost too good, she never barks, she doesn’t chew, she doesn’t jump up’. That’s Bella, I know just what he means. She’s come on so much in the last few months, it’s lovely when other regular dog walkers notice the difference in her too. Her tail is up high when she walks along and she has a lovely smile. She’s a different dog to the one we collected last November. She’s beautiful and gentle, she’s gorgeous!















































